People take things personally because they've programmed their mind to do so. Many people focus on their external world instead of their internal world. We can’t control our external world and trying to is extremely stressful, frustrating and creates a lack of self-awareness.
We react to our external environment and events based on our subconscious programming and habitual actions, and most of the time these reactions are not what we really want.
Based on the NLP Model of Communication, after running the event through our filters, we run it through our internal representation, which shows up in our physiology and behaviors.
External events influence us into feeling different emotions though out our day. People are influencing us all the time, making decisions for us and we are subconsciously picking up messages and habits from them that affect us in many ways. External influences are always accidentally being let into our internal world without us ever being aware of it! You must be aware of what is going on.
The good news is that we can control our internal world. It’s a matter of having full self-awareness and understanding your beliefs and values, which make up your internal world.
And then working on your confidence and developing what I call the “non-stick confidence coating” where you get to a place of high self-esteem and self-respect where you rarely allow other people to negatively affect you.
When we take things too personally we give away our power.
1) We believe we need another person's approval.
2) We believe we must avoid feeling rejected.
3) We believe the best way to avoid this feeling is to win another's approval.
Be perceptive. Be confident. Connect to your inner world and take back your power!
Taking things personally makes you prey for predators. They can hook your attention with one little opinion and feed you whatever poison they want. Refuse to eat poison!