In this fast paced world we live in, oftentimes people do not make time to socialize in person. Most people are sitting at their computers or on the cell phones spending more time typing than talking, and making virtual friendships instead of real friendships. It’s so much better to get OUT of your home, see people face-to-face, socialize and have fun connecting with others. We are social creatures that NEED TO HAVE social connections!
But over the past 10 years of my helping women with Confidence Coaching business I have to say that 99% of my clients come to me needing help with their social anxiety because the idea of meeting new people and putting yourself out there is scary for most people.
There are many reasons you might not be getting out there to meet people. You’re too scared, too busy, too tired, too shy, too frustrated, or just overwhelmed by it all. But the alternative is not awesome ...to be unfulfilled, bored and lonely. If you want a social life, you’ve got to make it happen for yourself, and NOW is the time to do it! 😀
On a typical day we will meet so many new people as we go about our daily activities. I have met several of my friends in the most unusual and unexpected places --it's so awesome! 🙂 And if I had not had the confidence to talk to them, they would not be in my life now!
The art of networking and maintaining a solid friendship can help you achieve great happiness. It has been because of my friends I have, that have helped me, that I am where I am today.
With that in mind, I thought I’d share with you 5 tips that have worked for me when I want to meet new people!
5 Tips for How To Make New Friends & Meet New People
1) Go places where you can meet new people, the easiest to meet new people when the ice is already broken by the circumstances. Conversation is easier if you have something in common.
2) Always appear friendly and happy. Be aware of your body language, people are more likely to want to talk to you if you look like you’re easy to connect with
3) Compliment people, genuinely
4) When communicating with people, be an active listener. No one likes a “Chatty Patty”
5) Make a habit of getting people’s contact information. Get into the habit of getting people’s contact info fairly early. Ask if they’re on Facebook, or ask for their email address or phone number. That way if an opportunity to get together comes up, they’ll be easy to reach. Also, if they have your info, then they can get a hold of you if they want to invite you to something.
Once you’ve met some people, take the initiative to invite them to hang out outside of the where you just met each other. Invite potential friends to do something with you. This is the most important step and this is where most people fail. It’s all about being proactive. Once you’ve met some people you get along with, call them a few days later and be “The Organizer” people will appreciate your effort.
“Fears make strangers out of people who could be friends.”
“Friendship is what shows us that we are not alone in any joy or in any sorrow.”
– Pam Brown
If you would like to learn how to build your social confidence and make more friends, I can help you, contact me today!