I have had this conversation countless times with friends and clients over the years. And after a very powerful Confidence Coaching sessions with a client today, I’m inspired to write about the HUGE negative impact of being around people that are draining, negative, toxic, or people who bring out the worst in you.
If you are in a relationship, or have a friend that drains you, and/or brings out the qualities in yourself that you don’t like (we ALL have ’em! 😉 ) –you must recognize it, and know that it is SO important to set healthy boundaries so you can take care of your own emotional well-being. Because YOU are the most important person in your life, and your happiness MUST BE #1 😀 When you are happy, it has a massive positive ripple effect on everyone in your life. On the flip side, if you’re miserable, it also has a massive ripple effect. Sooooo, choose the positive, happy ripple effect!!! It’s always up to You! 😀
If someone is causing you problems and stress, you must minimize or eliminate the amount of time and energy you give them, and focus on what you learned from that relationship –take those valuable lessons and apply them to your future relationships.
I LOVE Oprah’s words of wisdom on other peoples energy that’s not supportive of who you want to be. TRUTH! I have done this several times throughout my life, and have never (not once!) regretted doing so. Way too many people hold onto to relationships/friendships/family members that are toxic and draining. Being in the company of “Energy Suckers” or people that are not in alignment with your core values, only harms you!
You will never get where you REEEEALLY want to be in your life when you’re surrounded by energy that brings you down. Period.
Check out these fantastic videos from 3 of my favourite self-help geniuses! 😀
Iyanla Explains Why She Ended Her 14-Year Relationship
Dr. Phil on how important it is to TRUST yourself first, in any relationship