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If you're not hunched over your computer at work, you're probably slouching at a near-horizontal angle. Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy wants you to banish both of those habits — for the sake of your confidence. We don't just make ourselves smaller when we feel powerless, Cuddy argues. We can create a sense of powerlessness when we put our bodies in those positions. 1. Sit up straight "I can't believe I'm saying this," Cuddy laughs. "But […]

WOO-HOOO!  Check out my client's SUPER INSPIRATIONAL blog post: If you keep up with Jammie Komadina's blog at all, you may be familiar with the “category” I originally put myself in as a runner, which I now identify as the “slow, sucky runner” category, which isn’t even a real thing, by the way. If you run, you’re a runner. The terms slow and fast are totally relative and mean completely different things to different people. I do my […]

A major part of social anxiety is self consciousness. It is defined as “the undue awareness of oneself, one's appearance, or one's actions.” If you suffer from even a bit of social anxiety, an episode of self-consciousness can happen in any social situation, regardless of how well you know the people you are with. Self consciousness episodes are negative memories and it’s a form of protection we humans utilize. Our subconscious minds store those embarrassing […]

Society should also acknowledge that those who choose not to have children are making a valuable contribution to a sustainable future. The global population is growing rapidly, while the resources we depend on to live are dwindling. If you consider the footprint each person makes on the world – in terms of food and water consumed, electricity and gas used, and waste produced – the challenge of improving living standards while protecting natural resources and […]

Ever heard the phrase: “If you don't ask, you don't get?” It's SO true! Too many times when people are shy, introverted or lack confidence, they put their own needs at the bottom of their priorities list...sometimes they are not even on the list! Oh NO! Doing so is not helping you, nor is it showing respect for yourself. Do you wish people would stop doing something you don't like and start doing something you do […]

  1) "I don't have the time." That is a limiting belief. Allow me to keep it real here --99% of the time, those are the words of a people-pleaser with a lack of self-worth. Unfortunately, a lot of women struggle with this because of social conditioning. As young girls we were taught (or witnessed the women in our families) to take care of everyone else's needs before our own. Nowadays, we are also expected […]

If you really, really want something, you find a way. If you don’t feel worthy of it, you make an excuse. Excuse-making greatly affects your confidence and your self-esteem. Excuse-making is self-sabotage. It’s a negative behavior that sabotages your abilities, performance and motivation. It’s a distraction and avoidance behaviour that prevents you from getting what you really, really want. It stems from a deeper, subconscious desire to protect yourself (your Ego) against anxiety and shame. […]

  1. We give what we most want for ourselves to someone else. I've been teaching my whole adult life. Graduate students, college students, high school students, people on retreats, inmates in prison. I love to teach—it is my second favorite thing to do, after writing. I do everything within my power to understand the inner lives of my students and to figure out how to help them learn more effectively. The patient focus I […]