I LOVE Billie Eilish! Her music is so unique, and at only 18 years old, she has had astronomical success, with sold-out concerts world-wide, and millions of loving fans and last week at the 2020 Grammy Awards she cleaned up.
She made history by becoming the first female artist (and the youngest) to take home the “big four” awards: Record Of The Year, Album Of The Year, Song of the Year and Best New Artist and Best Pop Vocal Album, AND by becoming the youngest winner of album of the year –all on the same night! I’m SO happy for her!!! YAY Billie!!! 😀
But as they were about to announce the winner of Album of The Year, she came across as being hopeful NOT to be the winner, mouthing “Please don’t be me. Please.” Of course, her name was called and she won her 4th Grammy of the night!
And when Billie went up to accept the Album of The Year, she shushed the crowd and was quick to down-play and brush off her wins by saying: “Can I just say that I think Ariana Grande deserves this,” of her fellow nominee in the crowd. ““thank u, next” got me through some shit, I love you so much. I’m not going to waste your time, I’m really not. I love you. Thank you for this.”
Adele did something similar during her 2017 acceptance speech for album of the year: “I can’t possibly accept this award,” “I’m very humbled and very grateful and gracious but my life is Beyoncé … the Lemonade album was just so monumental.”
This is heartbreaking to me, when women feel the need to apologise and down-play their successes and for winning at anything, not just awards. Over the past 12 years of Confidence Coaching women, this is a very common and recurring challenge for my clients. So when I saw the super gifted Billie Eilish do this at the Grammy’s I felt compelled to write about it. I wish that all women would be able to be excited and proud of themselves for their accomplishments!!
Instead, many women apologise for their accomplishments and have a deep-seated sense of not being good enough and of not being worthy, which results in a lack of confidence. (You can also check out my other blog post all about : Do You Say “Sorry” Too Much? What to Say Instead! )
In a recent interview with Vogue, Chloe Brotheridge, a hypnotherapist and author of The Anxiety Solution and Brave New Girl said: “What many people don’t realise is that a fear of success can be a bigger problem than even a fear of failure. We worry about what other people will think if we are successful; will friends think we’re getting ‘too big for our boots’? Will they feel threatened or jealous and end up rejecting us? There is also a belief in society that it’s important not to show off or blow your own trumpet, or else we’ll be seen as arrogant. We might also fear that if we do become ‘successful’ that we’ll have further to fall if we do eventually ‘fail’.”
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