Happy Valentine’s Day! ‘Tis the season to be talking about love…and because self-love is one of The 10 Components of Confidence, you know I have to talk about that today! 🙂
Self-love is having a deeply affectionate relationship with yourself.
Unfortunately self-love hasn’t really been encouraged over the course of history. We’ve been socially conditioned to think negatively about loving ourselves. Our society has labelled people who love themselves openly as egotistical, vain and selfish.
It’s no wonder that most people fear the thought of openly loving themselves.
Self-love is not about being conceited, vain or selfish. All of those words have a very different definition and action from that of self-love.
Here are my tips for how to fall in love with yourself:
Write down 10 things you really like about yourself. Take the time to explore and write down anything, big or small.
Know yourself. The 1st Component of Confidence is Self-Awareness. A confident woman knows who she is and what her values and beliefs are.
One of the best things you can do for yourself (and your partner) is to learn more about yourself and pursue things that give you a sense of fulfillment and purpose.
Be yourself. There is nothing more powerful than authentic confidence!
That is a woman that doesn’t wear personas and isn’t pretending to be someone she’s not.
There’s no one else like you in this whole world…so be YOU!
Stop Comparing and Learn To See Beauty
If you find yourself making negative comparisons, you need to stop!
Instead of comparing, set an example. Be a perfect example for others on how to treat you and love you. How can you expect other people to know how to treat you if you aren’t even treating yourself the way you deserve to be treated? When we are able to honestly and authentically love ourselves, we are then able to attract and receive healthy and authentic love into our lives, therefore being able to give that same kind of love to others.
When you learn to see beauty in everything, you will also see beauty in yourself. If you see other women as competition, you need to know that another woman’s beauty or success has nothing to do with you and it takes nothing away from yours!
Say “I love you” more often. To yourself that is! The most powerful words you can ever say are: “I love myself.” Go to a mirror and look yourself in the eyes while telling yourself: “I love you.” or if that is too difficult, try saying: “I like you more today.”
Do something nice for yourself. Is there a beautiful dress you’ve had your eye on for a while and kept telling yourself you don’t need it. Or a cute pair of shoes, or earrings? A little trinket of some sort that makes you smile when you see it?
Buy yourself flowers or chocolates. Don’t wait around for someone else to do it for you!
YOU are the most important person in your life and the one and only person that you will spend your whole life with is YOU!
So make sure you have a loving relationship yourself!