Why women don’t speak up at work

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A great news story on The Today Show featuring Ivanka Trump of the Trump Organization, discussing why women are particularly susceptible to clamming up in group settings.

New research is shedding light on how men and women operate in the workplace. A lot of women say they often feel afraid or tongue-tied when it comes time to speak up in a meeting or a group setting. It turns out there may be a biological reason. Virginia Tech Carilion Research Institute studied the impact of social rank in a small group on the ability to solve problems. The researchers gave a group of men and women with similar baseline IQs a set of questions to answer.  In the middle of the test, they were told how well they did compared to the rest of the group . and then, their IQs were measured again. the findings were startling!

In a social setting, some of the people’s IQ goes down and of the ones that go down, over 80% of them are women!!
Bottom line, the study showed for some, particularly women , if we think others in a group are smarter, we become, well, dumber. and in the real world , where key business decisions are often made in small group settings, just like this, a lot of good ideas may not be getting heard.

The researchers think the loss in IQ may have something to do with women being more sensitive to body cues, reading the body language of others and reading others perceptions. however, this business woman says that same sensitivity can be beneficial.

Ivanka Trump says: ” You can change how you put yourself forward, a lot of it stems from confidence. I think you have to start speaking out. You have to make sure that the labels that others are putting upon you as being shy or meek or quiet or less assertive don’t define who you are.”

Watch the whole story and interview here:

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