From early childhood we are socialized, taught and influenced to compare ourselves to others, so we're rarely aware of how often we're doing it. Society, culture, religion and upbringing have been forcing us to look at others with feelings of superior and inferior, and forcing us into making comparisons instead of encouraging us to discover our own uniqueness. The desire to make comparisons with other people stems from a need for reassurance. As human beings we are social creatures and we all crave acceptance and belonging. The problem with comparisons is if they are coming from a place of negativity, instead of feeling reassured and affirmed, we often end up feeling like we're lacking in some way.
Making negative comparisons is a bad habit. The great news is that any habit can be broken!
Here's 3 ways to stop comparing yourself to others:
Fully accept and love yourself as you are
If you don’t, you are more likely to compare yourself to others which will either be an artificial way of boosting your self-confidence or you’ll become jealous and insecure. The key is to start accepting things we can't change.
Put a positive spin on your negative thoughts
While it's near impossible to stop making comparisons altogether, putting a positive spin on those thoughts can help you feel more confident and empowered. Healthy comparisons are not bad, as they can help us highlight areas that we might need to strengthen, or help us identify our uniqueness.
Be grateful and appreciative
Happiness is linked to our capacity to be grateful.
Gratitude is one of the easiest and most powerful ways to transform your life.
Your life will change to the degree that you use gratitude and begin to feel grateful.
If you are just a little bit grateful, your life will change a little bit. If you are very grateful, your whole life will change.
If you live with gratitude every single day, you will become a much happier person.
The more gratitude we project, the more we attract tings to be grateful for!
Always remember, her beauty and success has nothing to do with you and it takes nothing away from yours!
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