Confidence is the foundation for everything in life and it is our confidence, or lack of, that directly affects HOW we do everything in life.
When we know and appreciate who we are, we feel great about ourselves and we make better choices and better decisions.
When we make better choices and better decisions, we create a better life for ourselves.
When we create a better life, we are much happier.
Everything is based on our self-confidence!
It is extremely important in every aspect of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. It’s a world-wide problem that people of all ages, genders and races can have.
Our confidence is perfectly intact when we are born, but diminishes during our childhood. We lose a little of it when we make mistakes, fail, misbehave, get in trouble, feel guilty, neglect ourselves, and/or do things we are ashamed of. As we all know, kids can be mean. Many of us can relate to be bullied and picked on as children, which can destroy our confidence too.
As an adult, we can lose more of our confidence for many reasons:
- being criticized by others
- when we have negative people in our lives. It’s very common for women to have men in their lives that out them down and belittle them, breaking down their confidence because they THEMSELVES lack confidence.
- negative self talk, demeaning yourself by saying things like, “I’m stupid,“ “loser” “I KNEW it!”
- negative body image because of what society dictates we “should” look like
- not achieving the goals that we set for ourselves (consciously or sub-consciously)
The most common confidence problems include:
- not believing in yourself
- not loving yourself
- fear of public speaking
- fear of meeting new people
- fear of conversation with others
- not being able to say no to others
- not being able to get what you want
- feelings of worry, guilt , anxiety, panic
- fear of leaving your comfort zone because your lack of confidence is holding you back
Our confidence has a big impact on how we enjoy life. Many people have self-limiting beliefs and bad habits that hold them back from achieving optimal success and the living the life they have dreamed about. Nothing is more powerful than confidence and being confident changes everything!
People who love themselves and are confident radiate strength, passion and conviction. A confident woman is not afraid to be herself. She knows who she is. Her values, purpose and her unique gifts.
Building confidence must be something that you want to do for yourself, not for anyone else in your life. Many people will just settle with their current life and will not experience how incredibly rewarding it is to live a life filled with confidence, passion, purpose and enthusiasm because they lack the confidence and knowledge to do so. There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel better about yourself and to achieve more in life. Sometimes getting there is not easy and there are things that can happen along the way to make the path a lot longer and more difficult.
Your confidence is NOT controlled by anyone else. That means that you have absolute control and can become confident at anytime in your life, regardless of your past experiences!
Your confidence like an unused muscle that needs to be developed. And like any muscle, it never stays
the same for any period of time. It will either get stronger or weaker depending on how you use it. When you build your confidence it’s like exercising a muscle. It relies on small, incremental improvement on a daily basis. You won’t run out to the gym and expect to have perfect muscles for life in just one hour. So, consistent confidence building is the only way to lasting confidence and happiness.
It’s never too late to become confident and live the live you’ve dreamed of! We ALL deserve to be happy and to be living the life we dream of. With dedication and determination you can learn to love and trust yourself unconditionally –and everything in your life changes for the better once you do!
By Suzanne Fetting
My Confidence Coaching aims to develop your self-confidence, self-esteem, your strengths, talents and gifts. I will help you overcome your limiting beliefs, bad habits and negative patterns and develop new positive beliefs, habits and patterns. Whether it’s for business or for your social life, confidence is a skill which can be learned.
As your Confidence Coach, I will inspire and empower you to achieve your greatest potential with a new found purpose and a heightened sense of enthusiasm!
If you are ready to create REAL and LASTING positive change in your life and become the confident you, please contact me today.